relationships – Monologue in AFOG

The Male Gaze and Queer Flirting

I have been very introspective of my sexuality over the last year. As a queer identifying person, I have enjoyed exploring my sexuality with a variety of genders. I am also a wonderful flirt. Oh how I savor seeing the expression change from fun to yum. Oddly though, despite being aggressive in my pursuit ofContinue reading “The Male Gaze and Queer Flirting”

Cognitive Dissonance and the Violent Man

to own a gun. As soon as I became single it became consistent advice from close friends to people I had just met. What baffles me the most is the complete disregard of my experiences and data that says the biggest concern is not a random person breaking into my home, but the personal relationships I have with violent men.

Community

I was asked recently to write down what community means to me. I have worked hard to network and bring people together. I joke about my modern day commune where we don’t live together, but we share resources and help each other out. There are times though when I feel quite alone and without community despite this network.

When My Reality Doesn’t Exist

According to definition.com, gaslighting “is to manipulate someone by psychological means into questioning their own sanity”. The longer the gaslighting goes on, the more damage it does.

Kids are People too

I have come to the conclusion that as adults we often forget that children are people too. Children create unique relationships, have their own set of boundaries and have unique needs. They are not an extension of their parents.

A Safe Harbor

I recognized that many of the codependent relationships I have had in the past was because I offered that to others. What would you give to stay in a safe harbor when outside of it the world is cruel and chaotic? A space to heal from the trauma in your life.