I have attempted to escape womanhood. Embracing aspects of myself that have made others uncomfortable. Despite my attempts I am still viewed and referred to as a woman. This is quite opposite of trans women. They check all the boxes that others have insisted I conform to. They are pressured into passing for their ownContinue reading “Who Defines Woman”
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The Male Gaze and Queer Flirting
I have been very introspective of my sexuality over the last year. As a queer identifying person, I have enjoyed exploring my sexuality with a variety of genders. I am also a wonderful flirt. Oh how I savor seeing the expression change from fun to yum. Oddly though, despite being aggressive in my pursuit ofContinue reading “The Male Gaze and Queer Flirting”
Perspective Fallacy
We have our experiences in life and those are without doubt truth. Then we meet someone that has an experience like ours, but their truth isn’t the same. There is a moment of defensiveness. How can our experiences be true if this other person didn’t have the same? Here lies the fallacy in using ourContinue reading “Perspective Fallacy”
Investing in Relationships
I’ve explained this concept to those around me. The idea that we invest in relationships. Investment is defined as: an act of devoting time, effort, or energy to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result. Taking the time to help others in our lives is an investment. I am a lot moreContinue reading “Investing in Relationships”
The Cycle of Submission of the Southern Woman: A Cis Heteronormative Viewpoint
It begins at a young age in which the importance of family is stressed. You are “little mama”. You are praised for your compassion and are asked to help care for younger siblings or cousins when the family gets together. You are asked about your boyfriend before you leave elementary school. When you become ofContinue reading “The Cycle of Submission of the Southern Woman: A Cis Heteronormative Viewpoint”
Overthinking
I have recently been accused of overthinking by multiple people and it has started getting under my skin. First, I listen to their reasoning and take a moment to check in with myself. Am I stressing needlessly over things in my life? Do I need to take a break and do some self care? AfterContinue reading “Overthinking”
Failing and Then Getting Up
It was okay to make this mistake. That it can be overwhelming in that moment to feel as though you failed. That we should give ourselves compassion and extra care in that moment. That the people we put around us will be a huge influence on how we feel about mistakes.
When My Reality Doesn’t Exist
According to definition.com, gaslighting “is to manipulate someone by psychological means into questioning their own sanity”. The longer the gaslighting goes on, the more damage it does.
Not so Cute
This is an opinion piece by a mother of a teenage daughter and femme presenting person that grew up in a conservative religious setting. The movie “Cuties” has had some serious backlash. I have read numerous articles on both sides of the conversation, watched the movie several times now and researched the Senegalese culture toContinue reading “Not so Cute”
What is Anger Good For?
As you allow yourself the ability to feel this emotion and recognize its origins, in time you can learn to harness that energy for creating instead of destroying. You can seek out more options to express anger in a positive and healthy way. The important part is that you are not avoiding this emotion and you are learning ways to feel without it connecting to an unhealthy behavior.
Monologue in AFOG 