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I have been wanting to do a series on self awareness for sometime now. I will be posting some words of wisdom and activities to help us all reach a better level of understanding of self. As I post this to my local Polyamory page, I will add the new sections to this writing. WeekContinue reading “Self Discovery Series”

Labels tend to get mixed reviews regardless of how you identify. We all use them in some way, but they get a bad rap for creating negative experiences. I feel that we tend to make a few mistakes with labels. First, labels are very personal. When someone connects with a label it is for theirContinue reading “Labels and how to be the Domliest Dom and a true submissive”

I conduct monthly meetings for various marginalized groups in our community. This is the outline for the meeting I did for our discussion on domestic abuse/violence. Links for our community engagement guests and printouts are included. Feel free to use this outline and adjust as needed. I find it helpful to include other organizations withContinue reading “Domestic Abuse/Violence Outline”

When my father died, my stepsisters told stories of a man that was kind and compassionate. That came to all the things and supported them. This was a man I never knew. His experiences over time changed him. Even as this occurred the trauma and hurt from our past continued in our own relationship. TheContinue reading “The Measure of a Man”

I read an amazing article tonight that spoke on conduct within the Polyamory community and the need to do better. https://macrogrrrls.wordpress.com/2019/03/14/on-shaming-in-the-polyamorous-community/?fbclid=IwAR2zIzydiaizzK3E-Ht4ac0Ti3-M1S_sbvn4Mih0XIfr71Tq4hXmtKmgBWo That is a fantastic point, but the part that stood out to me is when the author spoke about breaking. I have rarely heard anyone describe their experience in that way. Polyamory is lifeContinue reading “Breaking”

As many of us begin new relationships we may come to recognize the fragility in which they begin. It takes time to build a relationship. During that development period, those relationships are fragile.  They must be carefully cultivated.  Compassion and kindness are essential for healthy relationships to grow from them. If we wish it toContinue reading “Relationship Fragility”

The longer I have identified as Polyamourous the more evident couple privilege has become. First, Polyamory is not about couples!! You don’t have to be in a relationship to identify as polyam. It’s a relationship style, a life philosophy, a genetic makeup or whatever makes sense to you. It is not a couples thing andContinue reading “Couple Privilege”

I was at our local rope share last night doing some self ties. I don’t consider myself a ropey person and I am definitely a beginner. My dear bunny friend saw me struggling and interrupted her own tie to come over and assist. As soon as I saw her move towards me I asked, “WhatContinue reading “Codependency or Empowerment”

I was in a conversation with someone that came to me asking for advice to find a partner. I started discussing the importance of knowing yourself which they quickly dismissed as pseudo philosophies. They were confused with loving yourself (which is a different monologue) and knowing yourself. Everyone wants to jump into a relationship (raisesContinue reading “Know Thyself”