Miss D

Who Defines Woman

I have attempted to escape womanhood. Embracing aspects of myself that have made others uncomfortable. Despite my attempts I am still viewed and referred to as a woman. This is quite opposite of trans women. They check all the boxes that others have insisted I conform to. They are pressured into passing for their ownContinue reading “Who Defines Woman”

The Male Gaze and Queer Flirting

I have been very introspective of my sexuality over the last year. As a queer identifying person, I have enjoyed exploring my sexuality with a variety of genders. I am also a wonderful flirt. Oh how I savor seeing the expression change from fun to yum. Oddly though, despite being aggressive in my pursuit ofContinue reading “The Male Gaze and Queer Flirting”

Cognitive Dissonance and the Violent Man

to own a gun. As soon as I became single it became consistent advice from close friends to people I had just met. What baffles me the most is the complete disregard of my experiences and data that says the biggest concern is not a random person breaking into my home, but the personal relationships I have with violent men.

Community

I was asked recently to write down what community means to me. I have worked hard to network and bring people together. I joke about my modern day commune where we don’t live together, but we share resources and help each other out. There are times though when I feel quite alone and without community despite this network.

Red Flags and Grand Gestures

Grand gestures- over the top acts to express love, have been a standard in romance for decades. Although, this can happen in any type of relationship, this is the go to instruction for men who are apologizing. Grand gestures are a big red flag in relationships. Although they can be exciting and fun, there are behaviors that you’ll want to keep an eye on.

Perspective Fallacy

We have our experiences in life and those are without doubt truth. Then we meet someone that has an experience like ours, but their truth isn’t the same. There is a moment of defensiveness. How can our experiences be true if this other person didn’t have the same? Here lies the fallacy in using ourContinue reading “Perspective Fallacy”

Investing in Relationships

I’ve explained this concept to those around me. The idea that we invest in relationships. Investment is defined as: an act of devoting time, effort, or energy to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result. Taking the time to help others in our lives is an investment. I am a lot moreContinue reading “Investing in Relationships”

The Cycle of Submission of the Southern Woman: A Cis Heteronormative Viewpoint

It begins at a young age in which the importance of family is stressed. You are “little mama”. You are praised for your compassion and are asked to help care for younger siblings or cousins when the family gets together. You are asked about your boyfriend before you leave elementary school. When you become ofContinue reading “The Cycle of Submission of the Southern Woman: A Cis Heteronormative Viewpoint”

Love Bite Basics

For those with an oral fixation specifically, but not limited to odaxelagnia, biting can be a way of connecting with partners and is quite pleasurable. Many of us have chosen it as a soft limit though. We only allow it with specific partners because it can be difficult to find partners that do it effectively. Hopefully, this guide will allow a better understanding of the mechanics of biting and how to do it safely.